Ok world, Here are the facts, what should we do?

We have been in process 2.5 years with our adoption from Viet Nam, second set of fingerprints have a few months left on them. We are #1 with our agency to review the next file of a child. Our agency has no other programs that we qualify for (just found this out TODAY!), so here are the options.

Stay with our agency and not loose the dossier fee of about $4000 hoping for a short closure.

Find another agency and country with a shorter list and loose the $4000 to start fresh

Our agency did not pass the Hague, so even if Vietnam opens what are the new twists going to be (only work with Hague agency's?), hopefully they can reapply this fall.

We are each having another birthday this year, so this make us age out of many options.

To come up with the dossier money:
We auctioned off a very old grandfather clock with an oil painting on the top of it.

Cleaned out a house of a very old lady that died, 70years worth of items, it took about 3mths to do this.

No Movies, No Dinners out, No out of state Vacations or unnecessary travels.

Kept the thermostat very low

Cleaned the snow out of the driveway, not hired done, planted a garden, put up food.

Can't remember the last time I purchased any personal items.

We accepted hand me downs, actually very nice ones, for kids clothes.

Can't remember the last time I used the clothes dryer, all laundry is hung on the line, winter included. I only wash in cold water, never hot.

Still driving the Blazer SUV into the ground, going semi-strong at 190K miles!!!

I am sure we are not the only family having such a hard time, but this is truly a kick in the teeth. No child, no money refunded. I am just sick.